Very often, boredom and depression, arising from unloved work and due to a number of other upsetting factors, become synonyms of adulthood. Many people make one mistake by choosing one activity, thinking that multitasking is the whole problem. But on the example of the British leader Winston Churchill, (1874-1965), it can be traced that the problem is not at all in multitasking, but in the absence highly paid interesting job and creativity, in responsibilities that you don't like to perform.
Churchill once said: “It is better to make news than to tell about them,” which means that you have to Live. So let’s take advantage of Winston Churchill’s advice on how to get rid of the boredom of adulthood.
Tip 1: find your favorite job
Many skip this point, citing excuses: “It's too late to look for a new job,” “No one will take me, there is no special education,” “I don't want to start all over again,” etc. Few people are inspired by the phrase of Confucius: (551 BC - 479 BC) "Do what you love and you will not work a day of your life", and what a vain! There is a great truth in it.
It may take some time to find your calling, but the result will please you. Churchill advises to change different spheres, try yourself in them - this is the only way to understand with what activity you “grow together” and forget about time. The mistake of many is to ponder and reflect, passively waiting for something. This approach is not entirely correct. We can dream about many things, but then it turns out that we do not want this at all, because we do not see things from the inside out.
In a nutshell, what you need to do:
- try to do what is interesting to you now;
- look at the problems around you and try to solve them (searching for pressing problems helps to organize your business - when you find a problem, you help others to solve it);
- do what excites you (and this can be found out by trial).
Tip 2: stay always active
Nowadays, on the YouTube channel, you can find many pseudo-gurus who “know” how to live: some promise that by visualization you can achieve everything you want, others tell you how to achieve success in a short time. By listening to them, you will never be successful. All great people, before becoming such, spent a lot of hours on their pumping: intellectual, physical, spiritual. And they have always worked.
It is very appropriate to recall the phrase: "The world belongs to those who act." If you want to achieve heights, you have no choice but to pull yourself together and start acting. At first, you will be lazy, you will want to sleep longer, watch TV shows instead of spending time on self-education - this is normal. Start small (for example, instead of watching TV, spend that time reading) - so one good habit will be followed by another.
Tip 3: look for opportunities in your spare time
Winston Churchill advises to spend free time looking for new opportunities.If you work at an unloved job and rest in your free time, the vicious circle will continue. It is much more productive to study in your free minutes, to learn more about the business to which you are really drawn.
Churchill realized that his vocation was in writing. And do you know what he did during the 3 hour breaks when he served in India? He honed his writing skills while his military peers slept or played cards. Churchill's decision marked the beginning of his literary career. It is not necessary to quit your previous job and devote all the time to your favorite business, but it can be combined.
Tip 4: drive out boredom
Look at the children. They don't have a moment to get bored! This is due to the fact that the world is new and unknown for them. Why do we, adults, feel bored, even if our planet has been studied by no more than 35%? - take it and discover it, conquer new horizons! The reason for this is unfulfilled expectations, fatigue from unloved work, resentment, disappointment (including from ourselves). We do not see new horizons, although they are open to everyone ...
Churchill replaced his melancholy with his favorite work and hobbies. To combat bad moods, he used the hard break method. Churchill's bodyguard once said: “He doesn't do what makes him bored. If during the meal uninteresting interlocutors gather at the table, he will soon get up from the table and leave, and if the film seems boring to him, he will leave the cinema, even if he came to the movie show with Franklin Roosevelt himself. "
How to displace boredom:
- find your addiction (it is different for everyone; someone enjoys reading, while someone needs adventure);
- do not drive yourself into a frame - try to avoid oversaturation from everything you do;
- experimenting - you can start simple: cook a new dish or change modest clothes for extravagant;
- release your feelings - allow yourself to be “released” at least not for a long time: dance, sing, swear;
- become yourself - never play roles imposed by society, and do not seek to please. Over time, you will understand how important this is.
Tip 5: concentration and routine
Self-discipline is very important, you will hear and read about it more than once. Almost all famous people made themselves, they are unfamiliar with blues and boredom. Plunging into the abyss of sadness and longing, you risk not getting out. No friends and a loved one? Find the pluses in this! No one will interfere with your daily routine. By the way, he was very strict with Churchill, due to which he was able to achieve incredible productivity.
In addition, he knew how to focus. Lieutenant General Jan Jacob was amazed at Churchill's ability to keep his focus on one thing: "When Churchill is busy solving a problem, nothing can distract him." Never do work for the sake of getting work done; you must see purpose in your efforts. Churchill set himself tasks, for example, to write 1000 words a day, and he did - follow his example.
Tip 6: imagine yourself as a king
It may seem that the maintenance of enthusiasm in a mature person is possible only in the case of inaction - avoiding a number of responsibilities and living only for oneself. In fact, there is a significant drawback in this approach: living in this way, we become spectators, and the viewer cannot go up to the stage and change the course of the production. As we grow up, we lose the ability to control our reality, which leads us to depression.
How do you get out of this? It's very simple! Remember how as a child you experienced the joy of operating a light switch button. This is because we felt how we were influencing reality by our actions. Each person can feel like a king - for this it is enough to take responsibility, which is power. Miserable adults are those people who all the time complain about something: salary, power, media, etc., while the happiest people change something in this world.
Interesting fact: Investigations were carried out, in the course of which it was found out that it is not the helm staff, but the passengers who experience more stress - all because the pilot is in control.
Remember a few rules:
- spare no effort;
- refrain from being a victim;
- do not be afraid of enemies.
Tip 7: do your best
If you want to create like God, use your leisure time productively. When Churchill noticed that he was giving out unsatisfactory scribbling on the page, he postponed the literary work until "a better moment." He spent his free time not on rest, but switched to some other occupation. After a while, cheered up, he returned to literary activity.
Winston Churchill believed that by switching to different activities, a person trains the brain and at the same time gives it a rest. There is no point in lying on the couch or for a walk, because at that moment the brain will also be busy with something. There is no point in telling tired muscles: “I’ll rest now,” the brain will still work, but the mind can be directed to a productive channel.
Summing up, let's highlight the main advice of Churchill:
1. If you feel that you are beginning to experience boredom, get rid of it at the root: sing, dance, watch a video on how to cook pancakes (by the way, you can try, pancakes can become your complete breakfast). Do what brings you joy, just say no to boredom!
2. Work at your favorite job, and if your activity does not bring you pleasure, change it without regret. Find interesting hobby... Something will definitely entice you - the main thing is to try.
3. Take responsibility for your life. Which position attracts you more - a viewer or a production director? In the first case, you do not control anything, and in the second, you create your own reality.